Dear Samuel: Help! I’ve been Ghosted

Dear Samuel,

Here is my question:  What happens when an executive recruiter “ghosts” you as an executive candidate?  

There are tons of articles due to a robust job market that candidates are “ghosting” recruiters during the sourcing and/or after job offers phases.  But how do you deal with a top-rated recruiter who “ghosts” executive candidates? This happened a few times to me and I find it frustrating, especially at the executive level. 

Thank you,

Chuck in Chicago

Dear Chuck,

Wow.

First, on behalf of all the executive recruiters out there that care, I’m sorry that someone treated you this way.

Why do people Ghost others? This is a relevant question across the spectrum today, both in our personal lives as well as the business world we live in.

From my perspective, there are three reasons why people Ghost.

1. They are uncomfortable with sharing bad news, or
2. They have no news, or
3. They don’t care enough to follow up.

Executive recruiters are humans, and as humans, we are not perfect.

However, “top-rated” recruiters stay “top-rated” knowing that a candidate can be a client at some point in time in the future. All executives that they deal with need to be treated with respect, courtesy and care.

If I was in your shoes, I would take the Ghosting as a sign that the client is not interested in you. You need to look at it as it is their loss, and that they were not the right fit for you. See it as a gift.

Your next role is out there with an employer that appreciates what you are bringing to the table and sees your value. They also have made the decision to work with an executive recruiter that reflects their values.

And as you need to hire for your new employer, you’ll make sure that you’ll only work with “top-rated” recruiters that care.

Wishing you the best as you continue your career for people that treat you right,

Samuel

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